Imagine being like laundry on a windy day, tossed around by forces beyond your control. That’s life without boundaries—where external influences dictate your happiness and well-being. Boundaries, however, are the anchors that keep us grounded. They define what we allow into our lives and what we choose to keep out, giving us the power to say “yes,” “no,” or even “not now.”
Years ago, I learned this lesson the hard way. Working in a toxic mental health hospital, I failed to set boundaries. I poured my energy into pleasing others, leaving nothing for myself. The result? Burnout, clinical depression, and a long road to recovery. It wasn’t until I said “no” and left that environment that I began reclaiming my emotional and physical health.
Now, I know better. If something feels off—whether it’s anger, exhaustion, or stress—I pause and ask myself: What do I need? What would feel better? This practice of self-reflection is key to setting boundaries that protect our emotional, physical, and energetic well-being.
- Emotional Boundaries help us decide who gets access to our inner world. Who deserves our trust? What brings joy versus stress?
- Physical Boundaries define our comfort with personal space and touch.
- Energetic Boundaries safeguard our vitality by filtering out the energy of draining relationships or environments.
Ultimately, boundaries aren’t barriers but bridges to a life filled with joy and balance. By saying “no” to what doesn’t serve you, you create space for a resounding “yes” to the people and experiences that truly matter.